| Yaschica Ben Y'Isreal
I have to wonder why we think sex is part of dating and is normal. I have heard many people say sex means nothing. But I know sex was created by YAH for marriage and as much as we do not like to hear that, YAH speaks of the dangers of sexual immorality over and over in the bible. Yes, we have bought into the world's thinking that sex means nothing special or worse that sex immorality is a think of the past. You may want to check the book of Revelation.
Growing up, I was told I needed to test drive the merchandise before getting married. Meaning, I need to sleep with the man before getting married. I needed to sleep with him to determine if the sex is not good. If the sex was not good then the relationship would not survive. (Adult women based finding a man on how good the sex was and told us to follow that rule.) Nowhere in the bible does it say we need to test to see if sex is good. In fact, this set me and so many of my friends on the wrong path. Sex without a righteous marriage is lust. Lust is not love; for YAH is love. I trust that YAH will build the connection we need to have a wonderful sex life but it is not the most important.
Sex Used to Keep a Relationship will Backfire
If you are convinced that your sex and your love is the best he or she will ever have you are setting yourself up for hurt. He or she will find someone that can do it when you can't. Why are you surprised when he or she cheats? Lust does not have boundaries nor does it care who you are or what you have to offer. Lust can never be satisfied.
Read what YAH says lust is in the bible: What is love: 1 Corinthians 13:8
Sex is a spiritual, emotional, and physical experience. Sex is about more than just getting our physical needs met it's about sharing a spiritual experience with others. Without a deep relationship connection you just have a sex buddy and you should not be surprised when you get used and abused. Evil spirits are spirits who latch on during sex and you share your light with them when you have sex outside of marriage. Because of the spiritual connections we build soul ties or unhealthy connections to people who are not meant to be in our lives in an intimate manner. Sex is deeply felt by our Holy Spirit and is more than just a physical response regardless of what you try to tell yourself. If you think you can handle sex outside of marriage then you have an issue of pride. YAH had to deal with me on this one too.
It's never too late to start over! Get to know YAHOSHUA!
If you are reading this...YAHOSHUA is showing you he wants you to know it's not too late. Say no to yourself and others- We have been given a spirit of self-control 1 Timothy 1:7 NIV. We have to be willing to give up the old life for a new life.
We have to know that loving YAH is more important than having others love us. Those who love YAH WILL love us because of 1John 4:19- "We first love because he first loved us." We do not have love without YAH. Therefore your relationships should be based on the love of YAH Love can not fill an area where lust exists. Our first relationship must be with YAHOSHUA.
He who is in you is stronger than he who is in the world. (1John 4:4 NIV)
By releasing the need for constant validation from the opposite sex we can then begin to build our confidence. We no longer rely on our physical beauty or sexual appeal to keep a relationship. As the bible says beauty fades.
Proverbs 31:30 - "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting but a woman who fears the YAH is to be praised."
Men have respected my decision to stand on YAH's word and find that more attractive than anything. Although, I am still tested I know that YAH's word is the truth. Remember, it takes time and it took many years to allow YAHOSHUA commandment to get me to this point but now I know the benefits and that we can turn from our sexual past.
Consider reading Ezekiel 36 and specifically review Ezekiel 36:24-26 KJV
Yaschica Ben Y'Isreal